Off to a Good Start

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

The Child Abuse Social Network is off to a pretty decent start, some 20 members and some good conversations. I have noticed though, that a number of folks are getting to the front page, prompted to create a profile and leaving. I know that requiring you to join the network before you can read anything on it may be discouraging some folks from signing up, but it was a choice I had to make to try and keep it as safe a place for survivors as I could make it.

So, if you’re curious about what’s there and want to see if it’s relevant to you, go ahead and sign up. If there are no conversations going on currently that you feel strongly about, or groups that fit your specific interest, start your own! It’s your network!

Secondly, since it is private, it’s going to be pretty difficult for people to search Google or other tools and stumble on to it. Everyone who finds this is going to find it as a result of reading about it on a blog, or because someone told them about it. Please, spread the word! The more the merrier. 🙂

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2 Comments

  1. I signed up–it’s easy! I’ve even started to do the “friends” thing. Thanks, Mike, for starting this. I’m sure I’ll get a lot more involved after the holidays.

    Speaking of holidays–I am going to do a holiday edition of the BLOG CARNIVAL AGAINST CHILD ABUSE. Won’t you pleas submit something? The deadline is Wednesday, 12/17. Thanks!

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